Attachment Style Quiz

Answer 16 statements about close relationships to see whether your attachment style is secure, anxious, dismissive-avoidant or fearful-avoidant.

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Think about close relationships in general, not only your current one. Answer for how you usually feel.

I worry about being abandoned

The four attachment styles

Two scores decide your style: anxiety (fear of rejection) and avoidance (discomfort with closeness). Low on both is secure; high on either or both points to one of the insecure styles.

  1. Secure

    You feel comfortable with intimacy and are warm and loving. You can depend on your partner and let your partner depend on you. You communicate your needs openly and respond well to your partner's needs.

  2. Anxious-Preoccupied

    You crave closeness but worry about rejection. You may seek high levels of intimacy, approval, and responsiveness from your partner, sometimes becoming overly dependent on the relationship for self-worth.

  3. Dismissive-Avoidant

    You value independence and self-sufficiency. You may suppress your emotions and distance yourself when partners get too close. You prefer to rely on yourself rather than depending on others.

  4. Fearful-Avoidant

    You desire closeness but fear getting hurt. This creates a push-pull dynamic where you may alternate between seeking intimacy and withdrawing from it when things feel too intense.

Frequently asked questions

What are the four attachment styles?

The four attachment styles are Secure (comfortable with intimacy and independence), Anxious-Preoccupied (craves closeness, fears rejection), Dismissive-Avoidant (values independence, suppresses emotions), and Fearful-Avoidant (desires closeness but fears getting hurt). These styles develop in childhood and influence adult relationships.

Can your attachment style change?

Yes, attachment styles can change over time. Through self-awareness, therapy (especially attachment-based therapy), and healthy relationship experiences, people can shift toward a more secure attachment style. This process is called "earned security" and research shows it is achievable at any age.

How does attachment style affect relationships?

Attachment style significantly impacts how you communicate, handle conflict, express needs, and respond to intimacy. Secure individuals tend to have more satisfying relationships. Anxious types may become clingy under stress, while avoidant types may withdraw. Understanding your style helps you build healthier relationship patterns.

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